Month 1 · Lead Self
Identity Before Influence
Separate identity from output so ambition can become service instead of self-protection.
Capacity being formed
Identity & Calling
Lead from belonging and calling instead of comparison, performance, or image.
Evidence of formation
The participant can make one costly decision from values rather than image, comparison, or applause.
Signorelli wisdom
“My identity was a gift to be received, not a reward to be earned.”
Identity is received before influence is carried.
A platform can reveal gifts, but it cannot tell you who you are. We are going to separate what God gave you from what an audience rewards.
Biblical anchor · ESV
“For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”
Your discovery tool
Identity & Influence Timeline
Build an Identity & Influence Timeline: formative moments, labels received, roles performed, graces recognized, and the next faithful assignment.
Roles
List the five roles or titles that have carried the most emotional weight.
Labels
Record the positive and painful labels you received from family, authority, success, and failure.
Grace
Circle repeated gifts, burdens, fruit, and assignments that existed before the current platform.
Decision
Choose one current decision and write the image-driven response beside the identity-led response.
Your session journey
One discovery. One rehearsal. One covenant.
You never have to perform for your coach. Bring one real situation and stay close to what is true, usable, and within your responsibility.
0–7
Arrive
Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome.
7–15
Witness
Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult.
15–25
Language
Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today.
25–45
Identity & Influence Timeline
Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation.
45–57
Locate
Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates.
57–70
Rehearse
Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural.
70–82
Prescribe
Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support.
82–90
Covenant
State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7.
Why the practice can work
Why identity must become behavior
Values become more usable when translated into a specific cue and response. The identity declaration in this module is paired with one observable act so insight becomes practiced leadership.
Read the primary source →Gollwitzer & Sheeran (2006), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Daily · 2 minutes
Read: “In Christ I am received before I am recognized. Today I will lead from ____ by ____.” Fill both blanks.
Evidence: Seven dated declarations each week.
Weekly
Complete one quiet act of faithfulness that no audience rewards.
Evidence: A one-sentence description of the act and the motive it challenged.
Care + scope boundary
Do not use spiritual identity language to dismiss grief, burnout, trauma, or practical limits. Receive identity and tell the truth about capacity at the same time.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
What are you afraid would be true if your current role disappeared?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.