Month 3 · Lead Self
Inherited Isn’t Inevitable
See inherited strengths and cycles without resentment, then rehearse a different future.
Capacity being formed
Pattern Awareness
See inherited and rehearsed patterns clearly enough to choose a different response.
Evidence of formation
The participant recognizes one pattern in real time and completes the replacement response under pressure.
Language from Mike
“For better or for worse, there is a spiritual legacy that is passed down as well.”
Biblical anchor · ESV
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
Discovery tool
Three-Generation Pattern Map
Create a three-generation Pattern Map of strengths, struggles, loyalties, losses, conflict styles, money stories, authority responses, and spiritual inheritance.
Map
Across three generations, note strengths, losses, conflict, money, authority, faith, care, addiction, and silence.
Coach: “What repeats? What changed? What strength survived?”
Select
Choose one pattern that is active, costly, and within the participant’s agency.
Coach: “Where did this pattern appear in the last 30 days?”
Decode
Write cue → inherited script → protective payoff → present cost.
Coach: “What did this response once protect, and what does it damage now?”
Replace
Write: “If I notice ____, then I will ____ and contact ____.”
Coach: “Can this response begin in under two minutes?”
No-prep facilitator guide
The complete 90-minute run-of-show
Bring the participant’s CT Scan result, this page, a timer, and a way to write. Read the coach language as written when useful; follow the person more closely than the clock when safety or truth requires it.
| Time | Phase | Coach does + says | Participant does |
|---|---|---|---|
| 0–7 | Arrive | Say: “This conversation is confidential within the limits we agreed. What would make these 90 minutes useful?” Then lead three slow breaths and a brief prayer. | Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome. |
| 7–15 | Witness | Ask for one piece of evidence since the last session. Reflect effort, choice, support, and result—without inflating it. | Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult. |
| 15–25 | Language | Read the Mike Signorelli line and Romans 12:2. Ask what each exposes or invites in the live situation. | Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today. |
| 25–45 | Three-Generation Pattern Map | Guide the four fields in order. Do not interpret ahead of the participant. Start with: “What repeats? What changed? What strength survived?” | Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation. |
| 45–57 | Locate | Ask the remaining tool prompts, then: “What is the pattern beneath the performance?” Allow silence. | Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates. |
| 57–70 | Rehearse | Coach recreates the cue in a low-intensity role-play. Participant names the pattern without shame, performs the new response, and contacts or imagines the accountability witness. Repeat until natural enough to remember. | Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural. |
| 70–82 | Prescribe | Choose the smallest sustainable practice. Specify cue, frequency, duration, support, and visible evidence. Explain the research carefully as support—not certainty. | Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support. |
| 82–90 | Covenant | Ask: “What will you do, by when, who will know, and what proof will exist?” Read the safety boundary before closing in prayer. | State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7. |
Why the practice can work
Why specific cues matter
Research on implementation intentions found that a concrete “if situation Y, then I will do X” plan improves follow-through by linking a recognizable cue to a chosen response. SLS uses that finding as a practice aid, not a guarantee.
Read the primary source →Gollwitzer & Sheeran (2006), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Three times weekly
Rehearse the Pattern Interrupt when calm, not only when activated.
Evidence: Cue, old script, new response, and confidence rating.
When activated
Use the if-then plan and notify the witness within 24 hours.
Evidence: Timestamp and brief result, including partial wins.
Care + scope boundary
A pattern map is a leadership reflection, not genetic, clinical, or spiritual diagnosis. Avoid blaming relatives or making causal claims that exceed the evidence.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
What pattern have you normalized because it is familiar?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.