Month 3 · Lead Self
Inherited Isn’t Inevitable
See inherited strengths and cycles without resentment, then rehearse a different future.
Capacity being formed
Pattern Awareness
See inherited and rehearsed patterns clearly enough to choose a different response.
Evidence of formation
The participant recognizes one pattern in real time and completes the replacement response under pressure.
Signorelli wisdom
“For better or for worse, there is a spiritual legacy that is passed down as well.”
Inheritance influences you, but it does not have to imprison you.
We will honor the strengths you received, tell the truth about the cycle, and practice the response you want the next generation to inherit.
Biblical anchor · ESV
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
Your discovery tool
Three-Generation Pattern Map
Create a three-generation Pattern Map of strengths, struggles, loyalties, losses, conflict styles, money stories, authority responses, and spiritual inheritance.
Map
Across three generations, note strengths, losses, conflict, money, authority, faith, care, addiction, and silence.
Select
Choose one pattern that is active, costly, and within the participant’s agency.
Decode
Write cue → inherited script → protective payoff → present cost.
Replace
Write: “If I notice ____, then I will ____ and contact ____.”
Your session journey
One discovery. One rehearsal. One covenant.
You never have to perform for your coach. Bring one real situation and stay close to what is true, usable, and within your responsibility.
0–7
Arrive
Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome.
7–15
Witness
Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult.
15–25
Language
Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today.
25–45
Three-Generation Pattern Map
Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation.
45–57
Locate
Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates.
57–70
Rehearse
Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural.
70–82
Prescribe
Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support.
82–90
Covenant
State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7.
Why the practice can work
Why specific cues matter
Research on implementation intentions found that a concrete “if situation Y, then I will do X” plan improves follow-through by linking a recognizable cue to a chosen response. SLS uses that finding as a practice aid, not a guarantee.
Read the primary source →Gollwitzer & Sheeran (2006), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 38, 69–119
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Three times weekly
Rehearse the Pattern Interrupt when calm, not only when activated.
Evidence: Cue, old script, new response, and confidence rating.
When activated
Use the if-then plan and notify the witness within 24 hours.
Evidence: Timestamp and brief result, including partial wins.
Care + scope boundary
A pattern map is a leadership reflection, not genetic, clinical, or spiritual diagnosis. Avoid blaming relatives or making causal claims that exceed the evidence.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
What pattern have you normalized because it is familiar?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.