Month 5 · Lead Others
Private Fire
Recover a spiritual life that transforms the leader before it powers the platform.
Capacity being formed
Spiritual Depth
Sustain an honest life with God that precedes and powers public leadership.
Evidence of formation
The participant establishes a consistent private rhythm and documents one motive shift that changes an outward action.
Signorelli wisdom
“Jesus already won and proved His power over darkness.”
Victory is the starting place; private formation prepares public courage.
Prayer is not a way to avoid reality. It is where desire, motive, surrender, and obedience become honest before God.
Biblical anchor · ESV
“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me.”
Your discovery tool
Prayer & Motive Map
Build a Prayer & Motive Map across relationship, desire, motive, delegated authority, promise, surrender, and obedience.
Relationship
Write what you want to say to God before making a request.
Desire + motive
Name the desired outcome and every motive you can see—loving, fearful, mixed, or unknown.
Surrender
Write what is outside your control and what obedience remains inside your control.
Act
Choose one obedient response that can begin within 24 hours.
Your session journey
One discovery. One rehearsal. One covenant.
You never have to perform for your coach. Bring one real situation and stay close to what is true, usable, and within your responsibility.
0–7
Arrive
Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome.
7–15
Witness
Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult.
15–25
Language
Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today.
25–45
Prayer & Motive Map
Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation.
45–57
Locate
Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates.
57–70
Rehearse
Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural.
70–82
Prescribe
Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support.
82–90
Covenant
State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7.
Why the practice can work
Why structured reflection can help
An early controlled study found that writing about both facts and emotions surrounding a difficult event was linked with short-term discomfort and fewer later health-center visits. SLS keeps reflection bounded, voluntary, and oriented toward present responsibility.
Read the primary source →Pennebaker & Beall (1986), Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 95(3), 274–281
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Five days weekly · 12 minutes
Complete the six-part altar at a stable time and place.
Evidence: Date, one-word posture, and one obedient response.
Weekly
Share one motive shift with a trusted spiritual witness.
Evidence: The outward action that changed because the motive changed.
Care + scope boundary
Prayer supports formation but does not replace sleep, medical care, therapy, safeguarding, or honest conversation. Never frame symptoms or trauma as a failure of faith.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
What are you asking God to change around you that He may be changing within you?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.