Month 6 · Lead Others
Rhythms That Carry Weight
Replace heroic intensity with rituals that can carry revival, responsibility, and relationships.
Capacity being formed
Stewardship & Rhythms
Build repeatable rhythms for energy, attention, relationships, and responsibility.
Evidence of formation
Four consecutive weeks show protected recovery, relationship, and essential-execution rituals at 80% or better.
Language from Mike
“Every second matters.”
Biblical anchor · ESV
“And he said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a desolate place and rest a while.””
Discovery tool
Ideal Faithful Week + RACE
Audit an actual week by energy, attention, people, rituals, recovery, and essential execution; then build an Ideal Faithful Week.
Audit
Color the last seven days by sleep, recovery, God, relationships, deep work, administration, and drift.
Coach: “Who receives the depleted version of you?”
Remove
Mark one commitment to stop, delegate, shorten, automate, or renegotiate.
Coach: “What are you maintaining because stopping it would disappoint someone?”
Design
Place recovery and relationships first, then Run rituals, Ask, Connect, and Execute essentials.
Coach: “What must have a time and place because motivation is unreliable?”
Protect
Write the cue, boundary sentence, backup plan, and witness for each essential ritual.
Coach: “What will you do when the week breaks?”
No-prep facilitator guide
The complete 90-minute run-of-show
Bring the participant’s CT Scan result, this page, a timer, and a way to write. Read the coach language as written when useful; follow the person more closely than the clock when safety or truth requires it.
| Time | Phase | Coach does + says | Participant does |
|---|---|---|---|
| 0–7 | Arrive | Say: “This conversation is confidential within the limits we agreed. What would make these 90 minutes useful?” Then lead three slow breaths and a brief prayer. | Rate present intensity 0–10; name one desired outcome. |
| 7–15 | Witness | Ask for one piece of evidence since the last session. Reflect effort, choice, support, and result—without inflating it. | Name what changed, what helped, and what remains difficult. |
| 15–25 | Language | Read the Mike Signorelli line and Mark 6:31. Ask what each exposes or invites in the live situation. | Underline one phrase; explain it in your own words; choose the phrase you need today. |
| 25–45 | Ideal Faithful Week + RACE | Guide the four fields in order. Do not interpret ahead of the participant. Start with: “Who receives the depleted version of you?” | Write concise answers for all four fields using one current, concrete situation. |
| 45–57 | Locate | Ask the remaining tool prompts, then: “What is the pattern beneath the performance?” Allow silence. | Name the governing story, protection, motive, expectation, or system and the cost it creates. |
| 57–70 | Rehearse | Coach introduces a realistic interruption. Participant practices the boundary, backup ritual, and renegotiation sentence without apology or over-explanation. | Practice the new response out loud; receive feedback; repeat until the first step is clear and natural. |
| 70–82 | Prescribe | Choose the smallest sustainable practice. Specify cue, frequency, duration, support, and visible evidence. Explain the research carefully as support—not certainty. | Select the practice, calendar it, and identify the witness or environmental support. |
| 82–90 | Covenant | Ask: “What will you do, by when, who will know, and what proof will exist?” Read the safety boundary before closing in prayer. | State one commitment, one witness, one due date, and one piece of evidence. Rate confidence 0–10; shrink the plan if below 7. |
Why the practice can work
Why repetition beats intensity
A 12-week real-world study found that repeating a behavior in a stable context increased automaticity over time, with wide individual variation. Missing one opportunity did not materially derail the formation process; consistency mattered more than perfection.
Read the primary source →Lally et al. (2010), European Journal of Social Psychology, 40, 998–1009
Thirty-day prescription
Practice until it becomes available under pressure.
Weekly
Plan and review the Ideal Faithful Week using RACE.
Evidence: Percentage completed for recovery, relationship, spiritual, and essential-execution rituals.
Daily · 3 minutes
Close the day: done, delegated, dated, deleted, and first step tomorrow.
Evidence: Five daily closure records each week.
Care + scope boundary
A rhythm plan should reduce overload, not sanctify overwork. Persistent exhaustion, insomnia, depression, panic, or impairment warrants professional assessment.
Monthly evidence review
Measure formation in real life.
Private reflection
Which part of your current pace asks another person to pay the bill?
Source lineage
Original SLS facilitation design synthesized from Mike Signorelli’s books and leadership frameworks. Scripture quotations are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, used by permission. All rights reserved.